Walk a Mile in Their Shoes

By Carol Combs, MSW Oxford’s Memory Care Coordinator

After my recent hip surgery, I not only gained a new hip, but also a newfound understanding of what it must be like for those who are ill, disabled and homebound.

I have always been a very independent person, so being dependent for almost everything during my recovery did not come easy for me. I needed help to get up from a chair, get into bed, to use the bathroom and bathe. I couldn’t stand long enough to fix a meal. I was frustrated and impatient with myself, even though I was told to expect weeks or months of recuperation.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. We all try to empathize, and sometimes say, “I know how you feel.”

But, do we really?

Maybe instead we should just say, “This must be difficult for you,” and offer support and a hug. As you encounter those who are struggling and need care and support, think about how challenging their lives may be and try to “walk a mile in their shoes.” I know I will.

Fortunately, I had a great caregiver in my husband and other family members. I am very grateful, because I know that not everyone has that kind of support. If you or someone you know is in need of help and support—whether it be short term or long term help—please call and speak to one of our Care Coordinators, they will be glad to assist you.